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Frenemies… the devils that you know.

5 November 2009

Live crabs look kinda devilish, yes?

The devil that you know is better than the one you don’t.

– “Lonely Ghosts” by O + S (music from Dollhouse)


What’s the what blog readers?  It’s been way too long since I updated, yes?  Sorry about that.

My semester has been busy and almost overwhelming, but I’m doing well and things seem to be coming together as I approach the final weeks (semester ends December 11).  I’m sure you’ve all been busy, as well.  And what, with the holidays fast approaching, I’m sure everyone’s lives are chock full of healthy anticipation and not an ounce of stress, right?  It is, after all, “The most wonderful time of the year!”  Okay, so some of that was sarcastic, I know many people get more stressed about the holiday season and, though they intuitively understand that the point is merriment and fun, family and joy, love and… well, they still get sadly overwhelmed with present buying and worrying about family strife.

For my part, I’m not worrying about any of that this year.  I refuse to.  Thanksgiving, my birthday, and Christmas are supposed to be fun, people!    It’s meant to be a time to be thankful for your family, friends and many blessings in your life.  And EVERYONE can find something to feel blessed about–particularly since if you live in America–for instance: do you have life?  Are you healthy (or, in my case, do you have some days where you are in less pain)?  Do you have family?  Any family?  Friends?  Even one that you like and bond with?  Do you have a roof over your head?  Food to eat?  Water to drink?  A TV?  Buffy DVDs?  😉  Faith in The Almighty?  A computer from which to read this blog?  Come on now, people, there’s something you can feel thankful for.  I just know it.

I hadn’t meant for this blog to delve into any of this and I digress…

The last month has seen some difficult times for me:

  1. I have injured my knee pretty painfully and am waiting on MRI results.  Thankfully, I can still walk (with the help of my trusty cane) and participate in most of my normal activities.  Working out has been out of the question, though, which is annoying.
  2. I’m only holding between a B+ and A- in Finite math, which just doesn’t thrill me–if you know me, you know how conscientious (some say neurotic or crazy) I am about my grades and succeeding.  This is the first semester I’ve taken on 5 classes… ever… and it’s been trying.  But I’m getting by.
  3. The change in weather has brought about some spectacular kickings of my ass (by my illnesses).  It’s nothing I’ve not been through in the past 14 years, but it’s just one more thing to worry about, y’know?

…my family:

  1. Aaron’s granddad passed away.  It was an emotional time for the family.  Not something I want to delve into here, too much, but suffice to say that it was difficult and–thankfully–he’s at peace now.

…and my entertainment world:

  1. My favorite show on the airwaves right now, Dollhouse, appears to be in murky water.  Struggling in the ratings for various reasons, FOX decided to let it “take some time off” in November.  It returns on December 4th for “Double Dollhouse Fridays” for three weeks.  It has NOT been canceled.  We’re thankful to be guaranteed the 13 episode order, and, though I’m holding out hope for a back 9, it’s not looking terribly shiny and happy.  I’m telling you people, it’s a great show if you give it a chance.  Joss Whedon and gang are doing some excellent work and the most recent episode was one of the finest, most emotionally charged hours of television I’ve seen in quite a while.

As I do in most times of trouble, tumult, and turmoil: I have revisited my Buffy the Vampire Slayer DVDs.  I’m always inspired by this show (yes, even in season 6, when there’s so much darkness and pain, you can still find a “silver lining”).  I’m in the midst of season 7, but have been turning to my Watcher’s Guides from various seasons, too.  As always, I have found quoting its lines and reminding myself of the timeless wisdom in Whedon’s works to be particularly cathartic.

In fact, if you’re wondering why I chose that quote to begin the blog today, it’s because, in addition to watching Whedon’s shows, I’ve been listening to music from the shows and that line from O + S’s “Lonely Ghosts” is a reflection of  where my head has been recently.  Let me explain.

You’ve heard the saying, “The Devil that you know…” and it’s so very true.  It’s sometimes easier to battle demons you are familiar with than ones from which you have no idea what direction they are coming.  In the Whedonverse, these are called Frenemies (and so much of popular culture these days).  I use that word to describe people, places, and things with which I am familiar but which still bring me some measure of grief.  “The devil that you know…” is definitely better than one that you do not know, people.  Trust me on this.  I know my demons well at this point in my life (hello SLE, FMS, anxiety, and many more…), and am able to deal accordingly.  Unknowns are less easy to deal with.

Along with that, I’m suddenly reminded of wisdom from my doctor:

You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it.

And so it goes.  Control what you can and let the rest fall where it may.  Additionally, you cannot control what someone else thinks or does, but you can control how you respond to it.  Am I right?  Yes.

I’m sure there are any number of other, much more pithy, remarks I could make about this topic.  But I’m going to leave it at that and go about my day.

To my friends requesting a blog from me (you know who you are 🙂 ), I hope this will suffice.  When the semester is over, I’ll try to post something every day.  Till then (or until I get a free minute during Thanksgiving week), ASAP.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. Nicolle permalink
    5 November 2009 2:56 pm

    Yay Jess!!! Devils we know- always easier to tackle, but sometimes we get complacent as a result. We should be fighting our “own personal demons” always 🙂

  2. jordan permalink
    5 November 2009 11:23 pm

    great b log jess. i did miss them, i miss the myspace ones ha, u need to promise to write more!! i am so sorry that you have been through hard times. i love how you pointed out how we all should appreciate what we have, SO TRUE, i am trying to be more like this, since i am so lucky and blessed. miss u both, lets get together soon, k? maybe us 3 can see a movie? maybe AVATAR? ha, gotta work it in!! hee miss ya

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